Lately, I have been getting more than my usual share of 'Go forth and multiply' kind of advice.
All my friends, cousins and colleagues seem to be having children. Which basically translates into one question popping up in every conversation.
What are your plans?
Well, we don't have any.
As someone who helped raise both my nephews for extended periods of time, I've had a reasonable surrogate motherhood experience. I've experienced some of the joys of motherhood- the first step, the giggles, the baby breath against my cheek, the lispy voice, the endless curiosity.
And the pain- the puke, the colic, the diaper changes, the sleep deprivation, and the stomach drop when I realized I hadn't heard the five-year old make a noise in the last five minutes.
After witnessing all that first and second hand, I'm not sure I want to have children.
Do children bring you joy? Definitely. Do they bring you stress? Oh yes. Do they take away your freedom? Of course. Is it worth it? Depends on who you ask.
There is a lot of research out there, but a Vox poll might be in order.
Do you feel that having children has made you happier/not having children has made you less happy? Please feel free to choose contentment/satisfaction/quality of life if you don't like the word happiness.