A little bedtime rant

Friends and family members who instant-message me at midnight to ask for non-emergent medical advice, just because I couldn't sleep and logged on to check my email:

Get yourself a doctor.

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Psychiatrist, cook, bookworm, photographer. Not necessarily in that order.
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24 Responses to A little bedtime rant

  1. Aubrey says:

    It's the 'instant' that gets me.
    If you care to answer, just tell them that you've noted their request for advice and that you will sleep on it. And that a good night's rest has been known to work wonders.

  2. jaklumen says:

    Awesome advice!Yep, it's possible to gracefully re-assert your boundaries and limitations, or so I am finding more and more.

  3. Oink says:

    Are you a doctor, do you mind my asking? or are they just asking your opinion?

  4. Purplesque says:

    🙂 Done. I've tried a few other things that did not work..this just might.

  5. Purplesque says:

    Boundaries and limitations..they have to be maintained everywhere, don't they?

  6. Purplesque says:

    Oink, I am a doctor. But I'm specializing in psychiatry, and that's usually not the kind of advice they're looking for. Don't they know I picked psych only so that I didn't have to ask anybody about the color of their poop ever again? 🙂

  7. ☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗hugs☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗☗(those are very special, anti-irritation-by-loved-ones-and-friends-around-midnight hugs)

  8. Purplesque says:

    Exactly what I needed. Thank you!Its morning now, and I feel much better (also a little embarrassed by the rant). Or maybe it was the hugs that did it. 🙂

  9. Oh, gosh, you're welcome. If there are any left over keep them…they have a long shelf life and you ever know when they might be needed.It's good to rant here! Better to rant at us than the people right next to you. If you let it out here you can be calmer when you deal with them, setting boundaries, etc.You'll handle it with grace and compassion, I know. Yep.*hands purplesque a post-rant Reeses and goes back to eating breakfast*

  10. Oink says:

    I'm a doctor too. The fact that no-one calls me up in the middle of the night could be unique to my specialism – perhaps you should have chosen Sociology too 😉

  11. Purplesque says:

    You mean you don't get poop questions? cough questions? acne questions? I hate you, docteur. 😉

  12. Oink says:

    You just called me docteur because I'm not medical, didn't you? That's actually a bit of a running joke around here – when my brother-in-law got his engineering PhD before me I asked him if he could write me any good prescriptions… And another colleague of mine is a social scientist, whose medical doctor husband makes a bit of fun of her too … I'm still waiting for my prescription pad to arrive in the post… I reckon any day now 😉

  13. Purplesque says:

    LOL..I actually did not. I call all doctor friends, medical or otherwise, docteur. It makes me believe we are in a Agatha Christie novel.When you get your pad, will you write me something for my nerves? 😀

  14. Zotta says:

    You tell 'em, Purp. Your sleep is important! I haven't IM'd since the nineties,but I'd guess protecting your night-time mental space never gets old.

  15. Spike says:

    Start giving the imposers the advice in your tagline (pull down your…). I reckon it'll sort them out one way or the other.And if anyone gets really huffy with you, you can claim you must have answered in your sleep. 🙂

  16. Purplesque says:

    Thank you! Both for the hugs and the Reeses..they're a big help.

  17. Purplesque says:

    Sigh..yes. Call me at midnight to talk about love, life, a word, a story. But not poop. Please not poop.

  18. Purplesque says:

    Ha ha..that is the best advice in the world, isn't it?Though in case of kids with poopitis, maybe not the best. LOL

  19. Can you log on "invisible"? If this happened to me, I would stop talking to them instantly. Lord knows I already don't have much tolerance for my family members. My mom used to wake me up in the most violent manner, almost every morning, when I was seriously sleep-deprived. Boy I was mad. Take care and try to get more sleep. We can never do without a good night's sleep.

  20. Purplesque says:

    Yes..I used to log on as invisible for a while, but its so much pain. Mostly people are good about asking my opinion(email is good), and to be honest, I'm still at a stage where it feels good when someone wants My opinion. But at midnight? About something that you're not even that worried about, but you decide to get a second opinion just because you see a doctor in your contact list log on? I never ask my professional friends about their professional advice during their off hours.

  21. You could suggest they google their symptoms, like the rest of us hypochondriacs who wake up at 2 a.m. and think we have flesh-eating disease because we have a rash on our arm. (*blush* Yes, I've done that.)

  22. Yeah, I agree. It's a common courtesy we show. There are office hours and after that we all should respect that little bit of personal time. You should really set your boundaries clearly. People take advantage, unfortunately, when they can get away with it. I've completely stopped using an instant messenger. Too much nuisance. The "instant" part is a bit too much. Good luck though! Being in your profession is not an easy thing to do, emotionally.

  23. Purplesque says:

    🙂 Haven't we all? At least you didn't wake someone else to ask them about it.

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